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Monday, July 6, 2015

Childhood Trauma: When Contentment Comes Home


          What I am learning right now is how there is a contentment we can experience “in whatever situation,” and, “in any and every circumstance.”[1]
          As I look at the situations and circumstances we are facing in this present generation of history, considering contentment in every one of them seems almost unthinkable, if not impossible. However, this contentment is clearly what our heavenly Father is working into the hearts of all his children because it is his “good pleasure”[2] that we could know the same contentment as he has within himself.
          The thing that began to draw my attention this morning is that many people not only struggle to know the secret of contentment in all the situations and circumstances they are facing in the present time, but are also restricted in their experience of contentment by traumatizing situations and circumstances from the past. If they are to know contentment in its fullest sense, as something they feel within the totality of their being, they also need to know it in their unresolved traumatic experiences.
          What so many of us face is that our contentment in present situations and circumstances is hindered because we have not learned contentment in past situations and circumstances. This means that, not only are there situations and circumstances in which we do not know contentment, but these past traumas have caused us to compartmentalize our souls, which means that our feeling of contentment has never entered into large segments of our inner selves. What we have left is a small segment of ourselves struggling to feel content in all the present situations and circumstances we are facing. And (grand crescendo playing to the obvious), it is not working!
          To feel contentment the way Paul meant it (meaning that our whole inner being feels content in every situation and circumstance we face), we must be just as willing to learn this in whatever we have blocked out from the past, as much as in whatever we are facing in the present.
          In other words, contentment involves our whole inner being feeling at peace in our whole world of experiences.[3] If there are parts of our souls that don’t experience contentment because we have never come to know God in those  places, or we can’t feel contentment in certain kinds of situations and circumstances, we will be constantly thwarted in any desires for a contented soul.
          Consider what Jesus says he will do to teach us contentment:
Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”[4]
          Jesus’ promise to give us rest for our souls means that our rest, including contentment in all situations and circumstances, is intended to touch our souls, meaning our whole inner beings. So, how do we get the contentment that invades our souls?
          The main answer is in Jesus’ promise, “I will give you rest.” This is another way of promising us that when we pray in the Spirit, instead of giving way to anxiety in the sark, God’s peace guards our hearts and our minds in Christ Jesus.[5] That peace is another aspect of contentment. Jesus will give us rest for our souls, and peace, and contentment. It comes from him. Ask for it.
          But then there is the part where we work out our salvation with fear and trembling because of what God is working into us both to will and to work for his good pleasure.[6] What do we do in response to what God is doing? “Come to me,” means that we come in response to Jesus’ invitation. “Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me,” means that we willingly submit to Christ our teacher so that we can learn from him.[7] When we do our part in response to his part, we “find rest for your souls.”
          As we consider Paul’s teaching and example about contentment, it becomes quite clear that asking God for contentment in every part of our souls, and in every situation and circumstance of past, present, and future, is most assuredly according to his good, acceptable, and perfect will.[8] Not only that, but Paul led us to this lesson on contentment through a beautiful and gracious invitation to the kind of prayer that will bring it about. He taught us:
“do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”[9]
          Here is how to apply Paul’s lesson on prayer with his lesson on contentment:

  • Turn from addressing yourself, handling the inner and outer circumstances through the anxiety of the sark (stop looking inward for the means of handling things).
  • Turn to God in prayer (start looking upward to God as our means of handling things), addressing him about everything.
  • Express yourself to God in supplication, telling him all that is on your heart about the keenly felt needs of both the present and the past (past things that are still with us are present things after all).
  • Weave thanksgiving through all you express to God, especially in direct relation to things that apply to whatever circumstances from past and present you are bringing to him (ie: thankfulness that there is a throne of mercy we can come to in fearless prayer, knowing we will receive the grace that will help us in our time of need; etc).
  • Present to God the specific, positive, requests that apply to whatever you face now, and whatever you are still facing from the past. No matter what things feel like (as you expressed to God in supplication), identify the end result, or the end experience, you know is according to the will of God (ie: the completeness of joy his word speaks about; the healing for the brokenhearted and binding up of wounds God promises; the rest for our souls Jesus said he would give us if we come to him; etc)
          My encouragement to us all is that, instead of denying the true condition of our souls, or dissociating from present situations and circumstances, bring whatever we are going through to God so he can teach us contentment. He calls us to this because his good pleasure wants us to experience it. He promises rest for our souls because he wants us to know what that feels like. He shows us how to come to him so we can experience his peace guarding our hearts and minds because he wants his children to know what his peace feels like.
          What we must do is submit to God for the experience of peace, and rest, and contentment, and then follow him through whatever messed up circumstances and situations of past and present that need to learn the very things he is teaching. God is working in his children such good things for us to will and to work for his good pleasure; let us work these same things out with fear and trembling until we can say that we have now learned the secret of contentment right where God is teaching it to us for his glory and our good.

© 2015 Monte Vigh ~ Box 517, Merritt, BC, V1K 1B8 ~ in2freedom@gmail.com
Unless otherwise noted, Scriptures are from the English Standard Version (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version Copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a division of Good News Publishers.)




[1] Philippians 4:11-12
[2] Our theme of Philippians 2:12-13 that encourages us with the things God is working into our lives because it is his good pleasure that we would experience them with him.
[3] Paul’s prayer for our “inner being” in Ephesians 3:14-21 shows that he wanted to see the fullest experience of God’s reaching into the fullness of our inner selves.
[4] Matthew 11:28-30
[5] Philippians 4:4-9
[6] Philippians 2:12-13
[7] This includes all that was given to the churches through the epistles in which we see how Jesus does his ministry through the ministry and spiritual gifting of his body, the church. My philosophy of ministry is, “Bringing the Soul Condition of the people to the Soul Provision of Christ through the Soul Care of the body of Christ.”
[8] Romans 12:2
[9] Philippians 4:6-7

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